Adoring husband's innocent query about laundry care for wife with dementia is a testament to true love

What is more beautiful than a love that withstands the test of time? Many elderly couples have learned to make the most of every phase of their lives. Be it a short stroll around the neighborhood or cozy evenings of everyday chats, cherishing the simple joys in life is essential to keep the spark alive. Recently, a husband's thoughtful efforts to care for his wife with dementia restored the internet's faith in true love. It started when the 69-year-old husband named Bart–who goes by u/itsonlycastles on Reddit–turned to the r/NoStupidQuestions forum with an innocent doubt.

Seeking laundry care advice, the husband asked, "Women, how often do you wash your bra?" He then gave some context about his situation, revealing that he was caring for his wife, who had dementia. "I do all of the house chores, including laundry, and really have no idea how often I should wash her bras," Bart wrote. He had no clue if he had to wash the garment after every use or once every three uses. He had no idea that his post would go viral, bringing him an outpouring of overwhelming love and support from the online community. 

"I love that you're so engaged with caregiving and reaching out for help for what you don't know. For your wife, for anyone getting older or ill, I'd suggest getting some wire-free, front-close, super comfy bras. It's best to hang them out to line dry and it can be okay to throw in a wash bag in the dryer. It will make your life way easier. Then you can do it every two to three days," suggested u/indigohan. "Sir, I give you major kudos for wanting to keep your wife clean, even down to her bras. Taking care of her will become difficult if it hasn't already. You were raised right," lauded u/Unhappy_Parfait725. "One wear in summer if I'm sweaty. In winter, maybe two or three maximum, especially if I wasn't wearing it the whole day," chimed in u/ocean_800. 

Bart's post also went viral on a different forum when u/dualtime90 reshared it to r/MadeMeSmile. "This post just made me smile at how someone at 68 still cares for his partner with dementia and asks advice from the Reddit community. What a wholesome interaction!" the caption read. "I don't wash my own bras nearly as often as this man washes his wife's. That's true love and dedication right there," u/TheStuffITolerate quipped in the comments. Bart's commitment to his wife touched u/Soltis48, who hoped "to find someone so caring" that they would take care of them in their old age. 

With his thoughtful gesture going viral on social media, Bart from Massachusetts, who never expected such compliments, was quite moved. "It's the type of question that you can ask there without having to ask one of your buddies' wives. It might be a little awkward," he told Newsweek. Sharing an amusing anecdote from his life with his wife, Kathy, he revealed a time when he was in charge of grocery shopping while she took care of laundry. "It dawned on me that it's been months since I needed to buy laundry detergent. I come to find out that Kathy was doing that laundry all right, but forgetting to add detergent," he said. Despite the hardships of dealing with his wife's illness, he hopes to make it work through the love they share for each other.