This aging lady on is looking at the bright side of growing old as she finds this whole process "freeing."
It is a common belief that, unlike men, women get unattractive with age. They are not considered visually pleasing anymore by the opposite sex and are not approached by men who are looking for romantic connections. However, this British soul singer and songwriter at the age of 62, takes aging as a form of blessing. Amanda—who goes by @saffy540 on TikTok—continued to age and her perspective about this natural process changed gradually. Her viral video on TikTok proved that as women grow older, they don't have to worry about unwanted romantic attention from men anymore and life gets a whole lot easier. Her video, which was stitched with another creator's clip, expressed the desire to not have to deal with men's attention and unwanted advances when she ages. Amanda feels like this is one of the beauties of getting older and being comfortable in your skin.
"I am at the age where men no longer find me attractive and I can say it is absolutely a gift. It is so f**king freeing," Amanda proudly stated. Then she narrated how she spent five days vacationing in Mexico and wearing a swimsuit by the pool without a care about how someone perceived her body. "Enjoy your beautiful skin while you have it," she insisted. "But look forward to the day when you just don't have to anymore."
@kp.ology, the creator whose video was stitched along with Amanda's video, shared her experience of dealing with unwanted male attention as well. She clarified in the caption of her post: "Women will never feel safe because we aren't even able to express our feelings of comfortability without being threatened." Then she shared a scary and unpleasant experience she previously had.
A 60-year-old married man was heavily flirting with her and giving her compliments, and she felt extremely uncomfortable. "I should have known that men were gonna come for me," said the 30-year-old creator. "I didn't expect it to be like that though. I mean, men were threatening me, going off on me in general. They were saying that I should be grateful that someone called me pretty." The TikTok creator referred to one of her previous videos where she had talked about this issue and had to turn off her comment section because of threats from other men.
So, Amanda isn't the only one who is relieved to rid herself of unwanted male attention but several other young and middle-aged women heavily agreed with her point in the comments section as well. Some women revealed that they constantly have to force themselves to walk the fine line between asserting their boundaries and avoiding confrontation around men. @koke3320 wrote, "I was blown away by how much happier I became once I became invisible. I can go to the grocery store without being followed, scared or grossed out."
@gobbyuwu applauded, "As a young woman, the older women who no longer care and are full of confidence always get my attention. It's a wonderful example to see and a goal." @kjg67lv commented, "I remember always being stared at as a young woman and hating it. I love my 56 yr invisibility cloak." @jk_watercolorart added, "I'm 42 and I don't care what a man thinks and haven't wanted their validation for 15 years or so. It's so freeing!"