Tricenarian women share insights on forging connections with new people and finding time to do the things they find solace in.
As women get older, many of them find themselves burdened with responsibilities and having a difficult time socializing or indulging in recreational activities. These increased set of duties can be traced back to many situations, from becoming a parent or advancement in one's career to maintaining a home or taking care of one's aging parents. While these are necessary responsibilities, they demand more time, effort and attention leaving women with little time to discover what they love to do as they age. Reddit user u/pineapplepredator1 was curious about what other tricenarians are doing to keep themselves engaged and popped the question on the platform. Here are 10 of the best answers that the people had to share:
I'm 34 and in the same boat. I just signed up for a wilderness survival class. Learning to build a shelter, build a fire, track animals, etc. It's a one-off thing (7 hours on a Saturday), but if I like it, I will keep taking the classes. I've also started attending adult children of alcoholics/dysfunctional families (sic). Trying to integrate some childhood trauma and do some re-parenting, and it has been healing just to be around people who are trying to do the same. u/VermicelliNewt417
Genuinely jealous of anyone who found an in-person book club. I couldn’t find one accepting members under 50 or didn’t focus on trendy fiction or self-help. Exercise is my main thing. I took a 1-month break from Reddit to really forge our habits and now I swim 2 times per week. On Fridays, I watch my husband play soccer. He plays at the same arena so it’s a pretty familiar crowd. I try to look good, have an open posture, chat with people, etc. 3 times a week outside of the house in the evenings is my max. The other times are spent doing life tasks. u/customerservicevoice
Yoga studio. It’s also still there if people bail on you at the last minute. Or if you want to bail on people last minute. It’s also something to do if other plans don’t work out. I was supposed to go boating with a bunch of people earlier and then it got canceled so, I signed up for a yoga class. Then some other friends invited me out for dinner and drinks. Didn’t feel like going out though after yoga and people understand that. u/morncuppacoffee
I made friends through local Facebook groups and Bumble BFF - the benefit is that you can be very explicit about your desire to make friends and if you hit it off, keep doing stuff together. One of my friends I met on a blind friend date I set up for myself. We started seeing each other a couple of times a month. She’s now my emergency contact for my dog sitter when I’m out of town, and we’re planning our long weekend vacation in Mexico. u/curiousrambutan
The climbing gym! It can be a very social sport and most of the climbing community is kind and relaxing (in my experience). I work from home full time and really look forward to my gym days and have a group of people I climb with regularly. You'll build up strength and endurance! I usually do 2-hour sessions (with lots of chit-chat between attempts). I also have encountered a ton of people at my gym picking the sport up in their 30s. u/lunardoggo