They share how deciding not to have children in the future is one of the most financially sound decisions they have ever made.
The birth rate in the United States has drastically decreased, and there are several factors contributing to this trend. However, a lot of this decline is owed to one factor, people and couples finding that they cannot afford the expense of raising children. Big Al—who goes by @bigaldrag on TikTok—candidly discussed in a video how the high cost of living had forced them and their partner to relinquish their dream of starting a family.
As they approach the age of 30, with their partner aged 29, the couple is on the brink of legal marriage. Their union naturally prompted inquiries from family members about when they would see their kids. In response, they made a statement that many might find unconventional: "You're not. It's too f—king expensive." Raising a child in the United States is an expensive affair. This number is predicted to increase given the present living expense graph, making it more and more out of reach for people who wish to have children soon. Many factors can increase these expenditures, including but not limited to where you reside, childcare and medical bills. Big Al and their spouse's decision not to start a family is because of the current economic climate and not personal choice per se.
Big Al explained that they and their partner currently live paycheck to paycheck, despite both holding jobs. Adding a child to the equation would necessitate expenses for preschool or childcare, costs they believe are "way out of our budget." The prospect of raising a child who consistently outgrows clothes, and requires continuous nourishment, toys, diapers and intellectual stimulation feels like an unattainable dream to them. What's more, they fear that by the time the economy improves, it will be too late for them to start a family. This heartfelt confession from Big Al reflects the struggles faced by numerous couples today. The weight of giving up on wanting children is a lot and many of the viewers empathized with this sentiment.
@user1155301352842 wrote, "Honestly same, I really wanted to have children, but I refuse to raise them in poverty." @lifethrewlemons commented, "We've limited ourselves to one kid, I switched to working in childcare, and I'm considering the reality that he won't be able to move out until he's 30." A third viewer shared their realization, stating, "I always thought I didn't want children, but it was a really sobering moment when I realized I didn't even have a choice regardless." This important story resonates with countless individuals who understand the financial struggles and sacrifices imposed by the modern world.
Big Al's story underscores the heartbreaking dilemma faced by many couples who, due to financial constraints, are compelled to forgo the dream of having children. People choose to have or not have kids due to many reasons, all of which are valid, including financial considerations.