Correcting centuries of patriarchal conditioning starts with calling out sexism and stereotypes and on an everyday basis.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on September 28, 2021. It has since been updated.
The patriarchy is pervasive and has invaded all spheres of our lives including our homes, politics and work. It will take decades, if not centuries, to undo all the conditioning and deliberate misogyny that greets us at every turn. Working toward an equal society starts with rebutting and calling out people who further misogyny, unknowingly or knowingly. Cis men live entitled lives in a world that's built to cater to them and reduce sexual and gender minorities to objects, people with limited power and decision-making capabilities. Working toward an equal society sometimes starts with shutting up a person trying to pass off a sexist remark. Reddit page TrollXChromosomes often tracks people shutting down sexist remarks and here are 25 of the best we came across on Reddit and Twitter.
We were really told "she slept her way to the top" instead of "men in power abused their power by withholding promotions and threatening demotions if they did not receive sex from their workers"
— Maud Mostly (they/them) (@MaudMostly) February 20, 2021
Why is it
— bebadass.in (@BeBadassDotIn) April 21, 2021
"No boy will want you if you keep on with that feminist rubbish"
And not
"No girl will want you if you keep on being a misogynistic piece of shit"
One time, probably in ‘00, my niece said she’d wanna be in the Olympics if she was a boy
— Your cousin’s friend (@michaelharriot) July 31, 2021
“Girls are in the Olympics, too,” I said
“I know,” she replied. “But they gotta do everything in a bathing suit.”
I laughed my ass off
But I think about it every time I watch the Olympics
male cashier cracked a joke & followed with “you should smile more” & before i could say anything the older african american woman behind me goes “PFFT hunny contrary to popular belief you don’t gotta smile for a fucking clown” & i hope her life has nothing but happiness & peace
— lacey (@sp0okygorl) July 16, 2018
😬He wasn't wearing a helmet.😂🤣👏 I love happy endings. pic.twitter.com/y3v6Eqj8GF
— George n dogs #Resisters #FBR (@GeorgeVanderbi4) September 23, 2021
Women dismissing stories of assault with:"If that's assault, then everyone I know has been assaulted" are so so close to getting the point.
— Emma Rossi (@emmaarossii) October 13, 2018
i was walking back to my apartment after tanning at the pool and i passed a porch with a few (very drunk) guys on it and one whistled at me and his friend punched him and screamed "WE DONT WHISTLE AT GIRLS MICHAEL" and turned to me and apologized for him. i like him, he gets it
— ig: girlyresults ✧₊˚.༄ (@girlyresults) September 25, 2019
People think they’re competing with other suitors when dating me, but really I’m comparing you to my own solitude. That’s the competition. Is your company better than being alone? Am I growing around you like I do when im alone? Do I feel safe? Is there joy??? Is there peace??
— KAYA NOVA (@thekayanova) July 14, 2021
I like how schools are now saying “we can’t enforce kids to wear a mask” As if you haven’t enforced girls to cover up for years. If you can send a girl home for wearing a tank top, you can send a kid home for not wearing a mask.
— Joce (@JRKSB_) March 22, 2021
Today I had my favourite ever unsolicited queer comment. I was holding hands with my girlfriend when a middle aged woman with very little English approached us. She smiled, nodded approvingly and said:
— Hannah Chutzpah 🎃🕸️ (@Hannah_Chutzpah) June 16, 2019
"Men is too headache."
Here's a strongly held opinion for you:
— Lena (@DeaExLena) June 15, 2018
Telling women to modify their behaviour to avoid being victims of violent crime makes women LESS safe, as it allows predators to view women not adhering to these "rules" as fair game.
Everyone gives girls shit for being hormonal when they’re on their period one week a month but schools have entire codes of conduct on what girls can & cannot wear because boys apparently can’t control their hormones everyday of the month.
— Navodita (@Navodita17) May 7, 2021
Stop abortion at the source.
— Bobak K. Persis (@BobPersis) September 2, 2021
Vasectomies are reversible.
Make every young man have one.
When he is deemed financially & emotionally fit to be a father, it will be reversed.
What’s that? Did the idea of regulating a man’s body make you uncomfortable?
Then mind your own business
Banning abortions isn’t saving lives, it’s forcing people to have children. You won’t even wear a fucking mask for 10 min in Walmart but you want to MAKE people make babies?
— tanya tagaq (@tagaq) September 10, 2021
This guy told me he wants to have a daughter first because girls tend to be more caring and look after their siblings more. I know he meant no harm it’s just interesting how females even before theyre born are expected to serve others. Even in childhood.
— krystal (@mixedseed) February 26, 2020
You can’t take organs from a corpse without the deceased’s written permission, even if it will save lives.When you outlaw abortion, you’re allowing women less bodily autonomy than the dead.
— Jennifer Wright (@JenAshleyWright) May 11, 2019
*taps mic*
— Salty Mermaid Entertainment (@saltymermaident) March 8, 2017
*leans in*
Men did not "give" women voting rights. They withheld them.
Then women fixed that shit.
I keep reading "if police investigated every reported sex offence, they'd be overwhelmed"
— Russ Jones (@RussInCheshire) March 12, 2021
So be overwhelmed. Then policymakers might suddenly discover they have to do something about it, rather than sending the message "assaulted women is a price we have to pay"
End this shit