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19 people reveal the exact moment they 'decided to be gay'

It all began when one social media user decided to call out the absurdity of describing being gay as a choice.

19 people reveal the exact moment they 'decided to be gay'
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Editor's note: This article was originally published on April 15, 2021. It has since been updated.

Those opposed to homosexuality often describe being gay as a choice. Despite all evidence pointing toward the genetic, hormonal, developmental, social and cultural influences that come into play when developing an individual's sexual orientation, some folks seem intent on challenging a person's sexual orientation and reducing it to mere thought. This absurdity is exactly what Twitter user Simon H chose to call out when he shared the exact moment he "decided" to become gay and urged fellow members of the LGBTQ+ community to do the same. "So. Gays. When Y'all choose to be gay?" Simon asked in a tweet.

"For me, it was a beautiful spring day and I just thought, 'You know what, I really want to disappoint my parents, offend my church, limit my options, lose my rights, live in fear of homophobic abuse, be afraid to hold my partner's hand...'" he added. Simon's tongue-in-cheek "revelation" resonated with many gay social media users, who joined in on the fun with some hilarious responses. Here are some of the most sarcastic tweets from the thread:












According to the American Psychological Association, although sexual orientation is often discussed as if it were merely a characteristic of an individual—like biological sex, gender identity, or age—this perspective is incomplete. "Sexual orientation is defined in terms of relationships with others. People express their sexual orientation through behaviors with others, including such simple actions as holding hands or kissing. Thus, sexual orientation is closely tied to the intimate personal relationships that meet deeply felt needs for love, attachment, and intimacy," the organization states on its website.









"In addition to sexual behaviors, these bonds include nonsexual physical affection between partners, shared goals and values, mutual support, and ongoing commitment. Therefore, sexual orientation is not merely a personal characteristic within an individual. Rather, one's sexual orientation defines the group of people in which one is likely to find the satisfying and fulfilling romantic relationships that are an essential component of personal identity for many people," the website adds.