10 wholesome things men have done for their partners to make them feel loved after having a baby

It's all about effort, priority and love

The period of pregnancy and postpartum is fragile and a mother goes through a lot physically, mentally and emotionally. In such times, it is nice to have a spouse come through and support their wife. u/bbyfirefly90 shared a post asking, "Ladies who have had babies, how did your partner make you feel loved and wanted postpartum?" on Reddit. To this, with over 150 comments and counting, women pitched in the most selfless, kind and caring acts their spouses did. Here are 10 wholesome ones to melt your heart. 

1. You're beautiful and more

“Isn’t mommy so beautiful?” randomly, to our three children. “You’re so beautiful,” when I was ready to go out or even just bumming it at home. But my favorite was a recent conversation when I blatantly asked him if he liked my mom's bod and he looked at me like OF COURSE. “It makes me love you even more that you’ve carried our children.” u/bakedapps My parents have been married 39 years and my dad still does this to my mom it’s so sweet. He’ll just be sitting eating dinner with us and randomly say “Isn’t your mom the most beautiful woman in the world?” u/keyboard_cowboy8

2. Understanding and helping

He would wake up with me in the night feedings, and change her while I would get ready. He would also bring me water or snacks because I was always hungry… sometimes he would feed me because my daughter only wanted to be held 24/7 and be fed every 2h. He took care of everything, while I was figuring out how everything was done, and took care of me. He also would get back from work, and take care of her for a couple of hours so I could have a shower and sleep. He also hired someone to come to my house to do a laser on my nipple when they cracked and it was the most amazing gift I could have. u/Smart_cannoli

3. Comforting and stepping in

3 days postpartum I couldn’t get to the toilet in time. I started sobbing with our baby in my arms and tried cleaning my mess. Without any words, he just took our baby and made sure she was safe. He took me by my hand and led me to the toilet and when I sat down safely, he cleaned everything. Never shamed me and made sure I got everything within reach. He told me he loved me and my body, while he was cleaning my pee. At that moment, I felt loved. He always made sure I knew he loved me, no matter what. u/MetSpice

4. Sharing responsibility

Everything was a shared responsibility (diapers, naps, bedtime, baths, playtime, etc). Even for the parts he couldn’t do (breastfeeding), he would help set me up and then burp/settle the baby afterward. We were lucky that he had 8 weeks of paternity leave and I was lucky that he eagerly took that time and actively participated in everything during that time. Outside of parenting, he’s always been affectionate and never batted an eye at any change pregnancy/childbirth brought to my body. -u/ginger4124

5. Acknowledging and indirect appreciation. 

Besides being incredibly hands-on and doing all the cooking and cleaning for weeks after I had both kids he would look at me like I literally hung the moon. You could just tell by the look in his eye that I was the best thing that ever happened to him. His whole body melted watching me be a mom and it was like his whole world made sense. He still looks at me like that but postpartum is when I started noticing it. u/snowymoocow

6. Communicating needs

He did the standard late-night feedings, and hospital night swaddles, and assisted me with physical duties, which is baseline partner help. He also gave me his massage appointment and drove me around for a few weeks so I could sit in the back with the baby. Most of all, he asked me what I needed, and our communication blossomed. We are both self-sufficient so communicating our need for help from one another was very new to us when we brought home the baby. u/missesrobinson

7. Being mindful of little things 

I handled input (breastfeeding), he handled output (diapers). When I was nursing or trapped by a sleeping baby, he always made sure I had water and snacks. He did all the dishes. He told me I was doing a great job. He made sure I had ibuprofen and acetaminophen every 6 hours. He helped me into the shower and took the baby to his first doctor's appointment when I was in too much pain to leave the house. He always respected my boundaries and never pressured me to be physical before I was ready. u/BlueAndFuzzy

8. Being kind and helpful

He made sure I could keep pursuing my hobbies and encouraged me towards them—never flinching at taking more parenting time. He has only ever had words of love about my body, and the changes it went through. Has always looked at me the same way, even when he wasn’t using words. Sometimes he messes up or doesn’t do his equal share but if I tell him with love what I/the kids need, he always takes note with love and changes. u/Maleficient-Pen4654

9. Being present and helping through post-partum depression

He supported me through my post-partum depression. He said that I did 100% of the childcare during pregnancy so now it’s his turn to do as close to 100% as possible while I’m nursing. He’s the best. u/TAOM42 Made sure I didn’t have to do too much after my surgery. He made sure dinner was cooked clothes were clean and all the kids were taken care of. He also treated me like a queen the whole 9 months I was pregnant and came to every appointment he was allowed at. u/Sad-Instruction4149

10. Being empathetic and caring

He made sure I had water and my phone when I was breastfeeding He made sure he wasn’t out of the house for too long, and when he did leave he would check up on me. He would check on me if I was feeling ok. He cleaned the house without me having to ask. He made it clear we could wait longer than 6 weeks to have sex if I needed it. Not everything was perfect, he had his faults and I had mine. But God bless this man, I truly believe he saved me from getting Post-partum depression. u/AgreeableDare5460